Re: The Late Unpleasantness

[sabinelagrande]

So the only good thing about the drama is that everybody is popping up on my flist to share big squishy (I just typed squicky, that would be v. different) declarations of love for each other, and that is excellent.

I love my fandoms. I love my commenters. I love my flist. You guys are what brightens my day. I probably check my flist like every fifteen minutes. And, y'know, I try to respond to every comment I get, but, y'know, I'm in grad school, and sometimes it just doesn't happen. Them's the breaks. And I respond to comments in random, non-chronological order or in increasing order of complexity or two weeks later, and it has nothing to do with anything.

(Except those weird comments you just get some times, like that crazy bitch who reviewed every single piece of my Spike/Faye 30kisses fic, and every single comment had the word "SEXY" in all caps, even when it was like angst and chardeath and gen and shit- but those are significantly less common on LJ than they were back when my standards were low enough to post at ff.net. So like, I reply to all the literate people. But that's like almost everybody.)

I do get sad and upset when I post and don't get a lot of comments- but until very recently, a lot of comments has meant, like, ten. I still get a little frisson from each and every comment notification that winds up in my inbox, even if it's just a smiley face (keep your frowny faces to your damn selves). You don't have to comment- I sure as hell don't, not nearly as much as I should, because I am v. awkward, though I tag and favorite things obsessively- but it's nice, because I totally get off on making people happy. Let me make you happy.

And now, I've made everyone slightly uncomfortable and am never going to get another comment again.

Look, the point is, my motto in life is that fandom is fucking funny, and if fandom's not fun for you, the problem's probably with you and not them. Or hell, maybe your fandom really is a bunch of assholes and you'd be like a billion times better off without them, in which case the problem is- yes- still with you, cause you're the dumbass who cares what strangers on the internet who don't like you think.

You should care what the strangers on the internet who do like you think, because, duh, they like you. Let them like you.

But I think if you're just generally chill and in it for the good times, fandom's pretty all right.

Comments

[neversince.livejournal.com]

what in the sam hill is going on?

[sabinetzin]

Wank in the SGA fandom. Popular writer went "I HATE YOU ALL FOR NOT STROKING MY EGO IN THE MANNER THAT PLEASES ME THE BEST" and everybody went "NO DON'T GO" except for the people who went "GOD GET LOST" and then she flounced and bahleeted her journal.

How this turned into a massive love meme, I am not sure.

[neversince.livejournal.com]

Just found it. Love this:

"I don't like everything Stephen King writes, either, but he's never told me to fuck off and die."

LOLOLOL

[sabinetzin]

I think I might like Stephen King more if he told me to fuck off and die. I feel that he would have earned it, at this point.

[neversince.livejournal.com]

I want to tell him to fuck off and die every time he writes for Entertainment Weekly. So... there.

[bironic.livejournal.com]

It also inspired today's face_of_joe post, which has to count for something. *g*

http://community.livejournal.com/face_of_joe/62295.html

[sabinetzin]

Anything which leads to awesomeness at face_of_joe is well worth the cost.

[clavally.livejournal.com]

Look, the point is, my motto in life is that fandom is fucking funny, and if fandom's not fun for you, the problem's probably with you and not them.

Yes, this. Absolutely.

[sabinetzin]

I'm starting to think maybe I should cross stitch "Fandom is fucking funny" and hang it on my wall.

::eyes roll of aida cloth contemplatively::

[seekergeek.livejournal.com]

*smooches you for being sane*

[sabinetzin]

::snuggles of not-crazy love::

[leiascully.livejournal.com]

I have no idea what is happening but :D :D :D :D :D :D for you.

[sabinetzin]

And an additional couple of :D :D :D :D :D :D for you, my darling.

[ninamazing.livejournal.com]

A HEARTY HEAR, HEAR! *RAISES PINT*

I think I saw all the fallout from this and not what actually started it. Are people now afraid to comment? (Is that why I got so comparatively few comments on my most recent smut? HMMM.)

[sabinetzin]

It was fairly typical drama, really- somebody got her titties in a twist because sixty comments per fic wasn't enough for her. And I think now half of fandom is afraid to comment and the other half is afraid not to reply to comments. It's a little ridic.

[shalom]

I always laugh when I see the whining: "Fandom's not FUN anymore!" and I always think, "Then STFU and don't let the door hit you on the way out!"

FOUR PAGES of "I'm leaving!", for goshsakes. I think she could have eked it out another page or two, but the hilarity of that last or so post asking if she was going to finish some other fic shut her up.

[sabinetzin]

Man, if only people would learn not to feed the whining, maybe we would have less of it. But it would also kind of be a sad day in fandom if that happened. It's a trade-off, really.

Re: Speaking of big squishy love

[sabinetzin]

I don't respond to reviews over there as a matter of habit, but I've noticed yours. So, thanks! Nice to have you!